My relationship to pornography was not random, it was a direct reflection of the parts of my childhood that remained unaddressed

John ³¹ So Jesus said to the Jews who had believed him, “If you abide in my word, you are truly my disciples,³² and you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.”

As I have dived into this book “Unwanted”

I have decided to go back and answer the questions at the end of the chapters so I still haven’t made it past chapter 8. That is okay

1. Do you find yourself bent more toward honor or honesty with your family? If you are bent more toward honor, what did you experience that you feel a need to be dishonest about?

2. At this point in your journey, what past stories are present Dynamics do you think most influence your involvement in unwanted sexual behavior?

Quote from chapter 1. The writers of scripture recognized that honesty and honor should never be separated. In other words, honor and honesty are intended to be married, so far as to say there was a private ceremony that brought them into a covenant together.

Until you understand that honor and honesty are two sides of the same coin, you will likely be inclined to separate them.

I think an example of what this looks like would be this.

When I was growing up my dad was never home all I remember was that he beat me with a belt when I got in trouble or he kicked me. He never came to my football games and he never came to my school functions. He was always working or playing softball with his buddies. This is an example of being honest.

But that’s okay because my dad was a great man and I knew he loved me. my parents have been together over 30 years. this is where you’re being honorable to your dad.

So the question that I have in this scenario is if your dad was never there for you when you were a child how does that make him a great man?