Lust/Pornography or sin in general, says too men, give me all your shame, humiliation, and futility and I will give you a world where it all goes away.
Interesting, sounds like something Jesus would say.
Matthew 11:28-30 (ESV) 28 Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30 For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.”
One evening of deliberate curiosity about your sexual fantasies will take you further into transformation than a Thousand Nights of prayerful despair.
Father Richard Rohr notes, “if you do not transform your pain, you will always transmit it. Always someone else has to suffer because I don’t know how to suffer, that is what it comes down to.”
Romans 2:4 is clear that the kindness of God is what leads to change or repentance. Kindness, not new strategies to combat lust, not a new book to understand addiction, not software to block your erotic content. Very often, it is our self-hatred that blinds us from seeing the kind face a God
See yourself the way God sees you!
Don’t assess any situation as if Jesus is not present in that situation
Matthew 6.6 